A tiny, windowless room.
No natural light. No fresh air. No wall decorations.
A room where you are completely, absolutely alone.
Sound like the set-up for a Scandinavian noir novel?
Do you still remember the excitement you felt when you were expecting your second baby? Maybe you were thinking something like: “I’m so happy our son won’t grow up to be the only child. They will play together and learn they are not the center of the universe.”
Do your children have an incorrigible sweet tooth? Would they have chocolate for lunch and gummy bears for dinner every day if you let them? Then maybe you know what it’s like. Every visit to the grocery store involves a tug-of-war over candy in the check-out line: “Mooooom! Just one bag of Skittles pleeeeease!” You frown and tense up...
Don’t cry! You’re okay! You’re just fine!
A dark-haired little girl, about 4, wearing a pink kitten hoodie and sitting on the bench at the playground. Crying. Really going at it. One might even say wailing like a banshee.
One particular evening I needed to get my boys to bed by a certain time. I went into it full of optimism, feeling sure we’d be able to agree with each other without a struggle. Usually it goes off without a hitch.
The evening is shaping up perfectly for a bit of me-time. They’re asleep. I take one last look at my two sleeping princesses before I switch off the nightlight. They’ve both kicked off their covers. Today was a real scorcher.
Find out what to do when children live in their own world and don’t do what you say, and learn about two types of communication that get through to young children.
Sometimes it seems like she can’t even hear me. She lives in her own world, and nothing can make her do something she doesn’t want to do. I’ve already told her. I repeat it several times, and she still doesn’t do what I say. I feel like she doesn’t care.
“Good girls don’t throw tantrums.”
“Boys don’t cry.”
“Stop acting out. You’re a big girl now.”
“Oh, come on! It’s not the end of the world.”
“It’s okay, you’re fine.”